Affair Recovery

Upside down.

How did this happen?!?

Who is this person I’ve been living with day after day? Is this the same person who said, “I do”? What happened to the vows we made on our wedding day?

When did we stop being there for each other?

This affair has turned my world completely upside down.

Round and round.

You’ve been going round and round about what went wrong.

You’ve tried conversations on your own – they get nowhere. Your fuses are blown.

You just can’t shake those insecure feelings, and major malfunctions have ground your relationship to a screeching halt.

You’ve even considered divorce – but you’ve decided it’s worth it to try to repair your relationship.

Inside out.

At the end of the day, the person you chose to marry is still worthy of honor and respect.

It’s not going to be easy, but it’s time to get it all out in the open.

To have the crucial conversations that matter, the ones that create closeness – not distance.

When you stop burying conflict underground, you’ll open yourselves up to a stronger emotional connection, which will lead to the conversations you should be having.

Shedding some light on difficult relationship problems can be painful – tough – but it can lead to addressing deeper issues.

Finally, you have a safe, effective opportunity to say what you need to say, to reveal all your unmet needs, to recommit to your marriage.

Bent – but not broken.

Tired of hiding the real you? Hoping to mend? Yearning to grow stronger?

Ready to unlearn some of your old patterns of interacting and replace them with better, healthier, positive strategies?

Then, you’ll need a guide to help you transform your relationship.

New and improved.

I’ll provide the paper; you bring the pens.

Together, we’ll re-write your story with a stronger, fresher ending, so you can start creating Marriage 2.0.

Welcome to the revision – the revitalization – the reconnection – of your relationship!

We’ll be following the Gottman approach to affair recovery which includes three stages of healing. As we move through these three stages, I’ll help you edit obsolete dialogue and hurtful habits that haven’t been working.

We’ll replace your language with techniques that will help you feel safe expressing the hurt and pain you’ve felt – to be vulnerable without fear.

Together, we can foster love, understanding, and compassion – so you can begin to trust again.

This side up – handle with care.

Right now, your marriage is valuable – but fragile. It deserves the best care.

While therapy is expensive, it’s worth it if it helps save and repair your marriage.

And in the long run, it’s often less damaging and expensive than a divorce.

When both of you do your part and remain committed to the process and the relationship, therapy can nurture a better relationship.

Hope isn’t waiting around the corner; it’s right in front of you.

Right in front of you.

In my office.

With your life partner.

A place where the grass has always been greener right under your feet.

Feel the fire.

Close your eyes and imagine the person you fell in love with.

Maybe that flame isn’t burning brightly right now, but I bet it’s still flickering, smoldering.

Together, we’ll find ways to rekindle it – to fan the flame – so you can find each other again.

With some effort, you’ll rediscover the person you first fell for and recommit to the partners you’ve become.