My Approach
Good news: you don’t have to hide anymore.
It’s time to turn on the lights and expose yourselves! Don’t worry – not to me (ha ha!) but to each other. Yikes!
I get it. That sounds scary, doesn’t it?
Therapy can feel scary – if… you’ve been tirelessly hiding from each other.
Trying to do everything perfectly, and afraid of letting your partner in.
But there’s more.
Therapy can be incredibly empowering –
When you discover it’s not that hard to just be you with your partner.
Just imagine it….
Feeling relaxed and at ease when you’re together.
Because you know – really know – each other.
And you’re on the same team.
The walls crumble. The ice melts…
When you’re both feeling mutual understanding and acceptance.
That’s what we all want, isn’t it?
To feel genuinely loved and accepted – by the one.
The person you chose to be with for the rest of your life.
And there’s even more to celebrate.
But that’s just fairytale romance. That’s not real life, or is it?
Yes, the masters of romantic relationships know how to value each other, but –
They’re not perfect.
They make mistakes.
It’s just that they also know how to make repairs, not if, but when, they mess up.
You can be masters, too!
When you join me in strengthening your relationship, we won’t be using my life experience to help you make changes.
We’ll have the trusted and proven methods of building a life together established by Drs. John and Julie Gottman.
I’ll help you discover and practice Gottman Method Couples Therapy – a secular (meaning not based on scripture or religious teachings), research-based approach to enhancing relationships.
It’s meant for everyone.
Newlyweds, veterans (long-married couples), same-sex couples.
If you desire a strong and committed relationship – it’s for you.
I welcome all of you.
You can be comfortable. And confident.
When we begin therapy, you can count on me to conduct a thorough assessment of your relationship.
That includes the story of your relationship, which I always love to hear.
We’ll also use research-based questionnaires to identify strengths and areas needing improvement.
Together, we’ll create a treatment plan tailored to meet your specific needs, so we won’t be blindly discussing issues you’ve already mastered.
The certainty of Gottman Land…
In my office, or Gottman Land as we like to call it, you’ll encounter many structured and practical ways to change the feel of your interactions from negative to positive.
We won’t waste your time in guessing games – trying to figure out how to get along better with your partner.
You’ll leave with actual, step-by-step, proven strategies to improve your relationship.
I’ll talk you through how to express your needs assertively, how to manage conflict in a productive and non-hurtful way, and how to REALLY listen to your partner.
You can expect to talk about what matters to you most, whether it be parenting, your in-laws, your sex life, you name it – all of your concerns are worthy of discussion, because your agenda is my top priority.
The Gottman Method is the antidote.
Don’t be fooled.
It isn’t easy.
Working – really working – on your relationships can be hard at times.
Hit the lights!
I’m here to illuminate the ways in which you can love each other.
To strengthen your connection – to create the relationship you’ve always dreamed of.